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Look what I won!

My previous relationship didn't end on a good note, in fact it didn't end on a note at all, it just ENDED. The circumstances & details of it are kind of complicated but here it what basically happened...

I always knew my ex, he lived right down the street. His older brother was in my high school graduating class and his sister was one of my best friends. We never hung out with each other growing up but generally hung in the same circle of friends and as time went on he came around more and more. Now, he always flirted with me, always. It seemed to come out of nowhere, if I was around he would stare at me, call me babygirl, make obnoxious noises if I bent over that kind of thing. But he had a girlfriend, and maybe even more importantly, he was younger than me.

What no one knew was that I actually started to like him, he was no longer the little brother of my friend. He was someone who I secretly wished I could have but felt never could because of our age difference. Then one night everything changed. I was over his house with my cousin and we were drinking, a lot. Before you knew it my cousin had left and it was just me and him and the radio. Then I kissed him, and was surprised when he kissed me back. I finally told him how I felt and he said he felt the same way. The next day he broke up with his girlfriend and we started being together. Needless to say no one was happy about our relationship cause of the age difference. 5 1/2 years to be exact, I was 23 and he was 18, and I normally never date younger guys.

Anyway our relationship quickly turned serious and before I knew it I was in love, not the kinda love that's based on sex, because we didn't even have sex until 2 months into the relationship. But real true passionate love. Did you ever have a guy kiss you and leave you breathless? Honest to God breathless, well I have, and it was great.

He had this "problem" though with drinking and anti depressant pills, if I wasn't there he would be fucked up all the time, it got so bad they took him to rehab. Now, I agreed with him going, I thought it was a good thing, it was what he needed. We didn't have much contact when he was there, I couldn't go see him but I did sneak him a letter or 2.

When he finally got out he had to move across the country with his mom to live with his brother since his mom couldn't afford her house anymore. He basically had no choice. I asked him, "Do you want me to wait for you?", he said "Yes". Said he would only be a few months and have money saved up by the time he came back. So I kissed him goodbye and hoped for the best.

1 month later, still no word. Not a phone call, email, letter, nada. I was going out of my mind, and during this period of time I had started a new job, lost my dog to cancer and my uncle to a heart attack. I was really on the verge of a breakdown. Then I finally find out his new cell number, I made his friend give it to me, I called him and it did not go well at all.

He asked how I got his number, what I wanted, could he call me tomorrow cause he was tired. I told him if you didn't want to be with me all you had to do was tell me and it would have been ok, I asked him to give me the reason he broke up with me this cowardly way and he kept on saying I'll call you tomorrow. He never did, and that was about 7 months ago. I swear I thought my heart was gonna split into 2 pieces. To have felt such deep love for someone, then out of nowhere have it ripped from your body like you aren't deserving of it can really damage someone. I will admit I have gotten better with the situation. When it first happened I would rate the pain a 10 out of 10, now it's about a 6, not much but still progress.

What gets me is these fucking dreams I be having. For some reason he always pops up in my dreams and I swear I wake up shaking because these dreams are so vivid and so real. I just want to let him go but it is so hard. I know I deserve better than to get tossed out on my ass like he did to me but these feelings won't go away, I just wish the dreams would stop, then I might have a shot at an actual normal life.

Blogged on 05/04/08 [20 COMMENTS]